Dear Samantha,
I have very mixed emotions about writing this letter to you. Part of me hopes that you'll read it and take it to heart, but part of me wants you to figure things out on your own. Who am I kidding, you're completely stubborn, always have been and always will be, and will go about doing your own thing anyways.
However, here goes.
Right now, you're probably thinking everything that happens to you is "the worst thing that has ever happened to you." That guy you thought you were going to marry? Or the one that broke your heart? Or the one who chose another girl over you. Jerks. Yes, that part you have right.
But what if I told you that one day, all of that was going to make sense. That the hurt and the pain you felt when your previous relationships ended was actually a blessing in disguise.
You've thrown the L bomb around a few times, and maybe you thought or think that you really do
love someone right now. Well, you know how you hate being told you're wrong? You are. You don't love those guys. You're infatuated with them. You love the idea of love and as one of your favorite movies, Sleepless in Seattle, will tell you "You don't want to be in love, you want to be in love in a movie." And we all know movies aren't real.
But love is. And the feeling that "the one" will eventually give you is indescribable. One day, when you least expect it, you'll meet him. And it will turn your whole world upside down and show you life in a whole different perspective. He'll enhance it; make you a better person and make your life complete.
I can't tell you his name, or how you'll meet, but trust me on this. The guys you date in high school and college are just a waste of your time. I hate to say that because I know that they are an experience, and that you have to experience different relationships to know what you do and don't want in the end.
But I promise you, you deserve way better than they have and will ever treat you. Hold out for "the one", and you'll know who it is when you meet him.
I don't want you to wish this time away. You're young, you're single, and you're learning. You have a lot of growing up to do and a lot of life to experience.
If I could do anything for you, I would take away the pain of your first real heartbreak. You will have two really bad break-ups but don't worry, time will pass and you will move on. Lean on the shoulders of the family and friends who will be there for you.
If you won't listen to me, at least keep these in mind for now:
Respect yourself. These guys aren't going to respect you if you don't even respect yourself.
Be honest. Don't force feelings because you're afraid of being alone.
Don't ditch your friends for a guy. They will still be there in a few years when these losers are just a picture and bad memory in your scrapbook.
If it doesn't work once, it's not going to work again. Don't take him back.
Be true to yourself. Be true to your morals and the way you were raised. Be you. If they don't like it, tell them to hit the road.
I know, I know, you aren't going to listen. But I wish I could show you how much better off you will be without them. Invest your time in your studies, friends, and the memories you're making. You won't those years back.
I don't want to give away too many secrets, but when you meet "the one", you will feel a feeling like you've never felt before. He will sweep you off your feet and you will live happily ever after. Trust me on this, it
will happen.
Until next time,
Samantha
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